© 2017 by Toni Erickson
Having a baby is one of the most beautiful experiences in the world; however, it can create an immeasurable amount of stress and strain on a marriage. A woman's hormones usually go wacko. Baby keeps everyone awake and on edge, and dads have extra demands and pressures which are often minimized. Sexual expression may be non-existent for some time and communication can decline drastically.
Unfortunately, many couples lose their connection, at least for a while. And some relationships deteriorate to such a point that closeness is difficult or impossible to retrieve. If that happens, divorce is sometimes considered. Certainly, there is no more important time for couples to be strongly committed to one another than during these stressful periods of having a baby and rearing a family.
Keeping Romance Alive After Children Arrive was written to help partners maintain a strong and loving relationship during pregnancy, after the baby comes, and well into the future. The book provides an abundance of valuable information, skills, tools, and strategies to assist couples to remain close, intimate, romantic, and sexual during and after this challenging period.
John Kadlecek was the primary editor and writing mentor.
Additional editing and proofreading by David and Leonore H. Dvorkin
Layout, cover, and book production by David Dvorkin
Toni Erickson, MSW, LCSW has been a psychotherapist for over 30 years, as well as a relationship coach, mediator, and educator. She is the mother of four grown children and a large, burgeoning family. She has a private practice and lives with her husband in Boulder, Colorado. Her desire is to assist parents to have loving relationships with respect, integrity, openness, compromise, and good communication in order to create happy and enduring families.
Toni was a guest on Branco Broadcast. To listen to the interview, click here.
Toni Erickson has poured a lifetime of top expertise into this valuable addition to the couples therapy genre. Her compassion, wisdom, and experience are evident on every page of this comprehensive, don't-raise-children-without-this guidebook. It is so challenging to keep a marriage thriving with the challenges of raising a family. This advice is practical and actionable. She offers creative suggestions for keeping love alive and comprehensive help for handling common problems. I wish I'd had this knowledge when I raised my family!
CEO, The Startup Expert
Toni Erickson's book, Keeping Romance Alive after Children Arrive, is a wonderful book, full of her experience and wisdom. It is filled with tools that couples can use to work on their own to improve and/or heal their marriage, especially during the difficult challenges that life throws us. Those couples having a new baby or who already have children will find it most valuable. I recommend it without hesitation!
John Rifkin, PhD, is the author of The Healing Power of Anger, which was nominated for the William James Book Award of the American Psychological Association.
As a long-time family mediator, I've met many couples who have lost their loving feelings early in the marriage. Not knowing how to reclaim them, they see divorce as the only path out of the quagmire of conflict or lack of connection that increased family pressures bring. By following the wisdom of Toni Erickson, "The Marriage Mentor," spouses can learn new skills and approaches to keeping their love fresh and intact throughout the many trials and tribulations of family life. Thus they can avoid the pain and loss of their mates and dreams that divorce brings. Keeping Romance Alive After Children Arrive is a guide to successful coupling and relationship sustenance that is easy to read and put into practice.
Christine A. Coates, J.D., is co-author of Learning from Divorce: How to Take Responsibility, Stop the Blame and Move On.
I was excited when Toni, who is my friend as well as a fellow coach and therapist, called and asked if I would be willing to read her new book, giving it a recommendation if I "felt it was worthy." I was honored, and I knew it would be worthy of a heartfelt, positive recommendation before I read the first word! I've known Toni for more than 14 years, now, both personally and professionally. She is loving, caring, dedicated, talented—and most of all, effective. Her new book is called Keeping Romance Alive After Children Arrive. If that in any way describes you now, or will describe you in the future, do yourself a big favor and buy a copy of this book. I know you will be richly rewarded.
Jack Bergstrom Coach, Speaker, Author
Former assistant to Tony Robbins and veteran of more than 21,000 one-on-one coaching sessions